10 things sex tells you about your mental health - By Debjani Arora

We often think that bad performance in bed is related to low libido or other physical problems. But the reason is much deeper – it could be a mental or psychological condition. While you can’t really guess by your actions what’s gone wrong up there in your brain, but these symptoms should make you worry about your mental health more than your sexual life.

Decreased interest in having sex: Decreased interest in having sex: It is one thing if you are damn tried at the end of the day to drum up enthusiasm for some action. But it is a different story if even after relaxation and rejuvenation you fail to get the spark back in bed. More so, when you start feeling sorry for your partner.

Addiction to pornography: Addiction to pornography: You like it virtually but not in real. Watching too much of it on the screen can also reduce electrical impulses in the brain and make you less interested in sex. On the other hand, if you need it to get aroused or act like a lover, it is indication enough that your mind and body aren’t in tandem with each other now.

Inability to reach an orgasm or climax Inability to reach an orgasm or climax: Well this is quite common when you are stressed but if it is a norm in your case don’t waste your time popping pills for better sex. Instead, head for a counselling to save your relationship.

Premature ejaculation Premature ejaculation: For men, it is an embarrassment. But you need to be brave enough to get to the core of the situation. If you had a wonderful sex life before there is no reason why this should haunt you suddenly, unless you don’t suffer from a health condition that can lead to this. Act soon, your brain isn’t supporting your desires anymore.

Fear of performance Fear of performance: This is a deep rooted psychological problem and it is related to your confidence level along with a various other factors. However, you can only get a better picture about it when you talk it out with a trusted friend or an expert. Fear of performance is more of a mind over body matter.

Excessive desire to have sex Excessive desire to have sex: Why only blame low libido? Even if you are having a rocking sex life it doesn’t mean that all is fine in your mind. Are you sure the way you approach sex (have it in your mind all the time) don’t make you a sex addict? Probably your partner will be a better judge, so keep the communication open about your actions. If your partner thinks you are going overboard, stop and check yourself. Trying unnatural ways of sex Trying unnatural ways of sex: Of course, missionary and doggy style can become too boring after a while, and you need some other things to spice your sex life – different positions, ambience, role play. But if you are trying to get an orgasm or satisfaction through unnatural ways, probably it’s time to visit a psychiatrist.

Filming sexual acts Filming sexual acts: This is wrong on so many grounds, but if you are deriving pleasure out of it, do we need to say more.

Addiction to masturbation Addiction to masturbation: If you find yourself masturbating more than having real action and if masturbation gives you more satisfaction than ever, then it might be a red flag for deteriorating mental health.

Pain after sex or headache Pain after sex or headache: This is unusual unless there is an underlying condition that can cause this like a tight foreskin in case of men or vaginismus in case of women. But if you experience pain, discomfort or headaches after the act, trying to clear the air and get your mental health accessed.

Source: healthsite